Cali Darling

So I decided to change blog names. Why? Well mostly because of all the change that has happened in my life this past year and a half and all the changes that are to come in the next few years. If you are new to my blog, I’ll fill you in on what’s happened this past year and a half.

Last April (2014), my dad passed away from a heart attack. It was totally unexpected as he wasn’t sick or anything. He was very independent and was still doing everything for himself. He was 67. Then on August 10 of this year, my mom passed away. Her passing was a lot different than my dad’s. She was admitted to the hospital on July 21 and after a lot of ups and downs, she finally was reunited with my dad. There were so many times during her stay that I thought she was going to make it, but unfortunately her body just rejected dialysis and without dialysis, the doctor said she would have only lived for a week. However, she was on blood pressure medicine because her BP was too low. The doctor said that if we stopped the medicine, she would pass quickly and pain free. That morning she was alert and awake and expressed to me her wishes, which were to be with my dad. As hard as it was for me to hear this and as selfish as I wanted to be, ultimately it was her decision to make and I’m so grateful that she took that burden off of me. By that night, all the family was there and we stopped the medicine at 10:00PM. However, at around 3PM they gave her a morphine drip that had made her sleepy so she wasn’t awake. The last time she had talked was at 4PM. At 10:21PM, she passed. It was a day that I will never forget but I’m so glad family was able to be there.

My mom and I were planning to move back down to SoCal on August 21, well with everything that had happened, that obviously was put on hold. After she passed, I took a trip down to SoCal to be with friends and family and decided that I was going to move back down to SoCal. That’s where I’m originally from and that’s where most of my friends and family are. I chose a place and am scheduled for a move in day of October 3.

So with all that change, I felt a new blog name was also a fresh start… kind of like getting a new apartment. This blog will document my new adventure of moving down to SoCal, decorating my apartment, and learning how to live without my parents.